COUNSELLING SERVICES
Couples & Relationship Counselling
Expert Online Relationship Counselling: Transform Your Relational Life
Relationship Therapy to Heal Relationship Pain - Cultivate the Connection You Long For
Is your relationship struggling? Are you stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns repetitive arguing, conflict avoidance, emotional withdrawal and alienation? Do you long to get back spark and connection you once shared together?
I bring 17 years experience as a Vancouver Couples Counsellor skilled in compassionate and effective marriage therapy, couples counselling and online relationship counselling services for couples and individuals wanting to feel more connected, feel mutual love and respect and enjoy a fulfilling life together, choosing each other every day.
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Whether you are navigating conflict in your relationship, dealing with a break-up, wanting to recover from a betrayal or you want to feel more confident in relationships, I am here to support you so you can find new hope in a pathway towards a successful relational life.
SERVICES
Relationship Loss
Support with Navigating a Divorce or Separation
Have you gone through a recent breakup and need support to heal, and build confidence again? I offer online relationship counselling to recover your sense of self, process feelings and patterns to make empowered choices for your future.
SERVICES
Relationship Trauma
Support for Adult Survivors of Abuse Build Secure Bonds
Are you or your partner adult survivors of childhood abuse or struggling with Complex-PTSD? I offer compassionate trauma-sensitive couples therapy to help you navigate the impact of trauma on your relationship and foster healing and connection.
Couples Counselling
For couples who want to overcome conflict & build stronger bonds
​In my 17 years experience as a Vancouver couples counsellor, I have heard many times how painful it is to feel neglected or misunderstood by a partner. In fact, I believe the main source of conflict in our relationships is broken communication and emotional disconnection.
We have a deep longing to feel seen, gotten and that our feelings and experiences in life are important. This is how we feel loved.
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I bring tools that help you both get to the heart of the matter, come back into connection, listen with respect and love so you can work through hurts, know each other better and feel a renewed commitment to the partnership.
In our sessions, you will learn how to:
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Resolve conflicts - Deepen compassion and understanding
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Build stronger communication -More empathy and respect, feel more on the 'same team'
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Calm arguments - Manage issues with activation from family of origin issues or complex-PTSD
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Restore trust - Heal from infidelity and affair-proof your relationship.
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Enhance emotional intimacy - learn emotionally focused conversations. Feel seen and heard.
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Restore Affection - Feel more playfulness, fun, and sexual connection
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Strengthen the bond - Feel more security in your deepened commitment to one another
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Feel greater appreciation - Remember what drew you together
"Perfection is not the price of love. Practice is. We practice how to express our love and how to receive our partner’s love. Love is an action even more than a feeling. It requires intention and attention, a practice we call attunement."
~ John Gottman ~
Support with Relationship Loss
Have you recently gone through a divorce, separation or recent break-up? Are you feeling lost, disillusioned and struggling with your sense of self? I offer online relationship counselling support to help you
process your relational hurt and grief, rebuild your self-esteem and to map out a secure, self assured, empowered future.
Regardless of how the relationship ended, grief is a normal part of any ending. It may feel like the grief is unrelenting. Having a safe, space to bring your emotions, and feel like someone is walking alongside you, is important. Friends and family may be well meaning but might not know how to support you in the best way.
I offer experienced relationship therapy and an unbiased, accepting space for you to make sense of your experience, explore emotions, learn healthy boundaries so you can feel back to your self and hope in your relationship future.
Together we will help you gain:
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Emotional Healing: A compassionate space to bring your emotions and process them in a healthy way
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Deep Insight: Work through confusion and questions and get help to make sense of your experience.
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Greater Self-Esteem: Feel more confidence, worthiness and learn self-compassion.
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Healthy Relationship Patterns: Explore your habits, understand past family of origin issues and build new healthy relationship strategies before re-entering the dating scene.
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Future template: Forge a new path full of clearer perspectives, self-connection, empowered choices and relationship readiness.
"Do not feel lonely, the entire universe is inside you. Stop acting so small. You are the universe in ecstatic motion. Set your life on fire.
~ Rumi ~
Couples Counselling for Complex PTSD and Trauma
If you and/or your partner have been affected by childhood trauma, neglect, chronic invalidation and emotionally immature parenting, adult relationships can be especially challenging. As a Couples Counsellor and Trauma specialist, I offer empathy and trauma-sensitive support to help you navigate your difficulties.
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Adult survivors of abuse or emotional immature parenting often have relational wounds that lead to insecurity in relationships. Fear of abandonment, difficulty believing you are loved, intense emotions like fear or rage when feeling slighted or triggered can take a toll on your relationship. It is important to know that change is possible and your relationship can thrive with the right kind of trauma-informed help.
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Trauma-Sensitive Support: I ensure you both feel heard and understood and offer gentle guidance to learn to feel safety in connection.
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An Emotionally Safe Space: Confidential, affirming and nourishing environment. Feel safe to openly discuss sensitive issues without fear of judgement.
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Relationship Therapy Tools: Explore how trauma may be impacting your relationship. Learn how to communicate so you are more likely to be heard so you can feel more loved and appreciated.
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Emotional Regulation: Tools to help manage trauma triggers, calm nervous system deregulation and promote emotional healing.
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Healing Relationship: See how your relationship can be deeply healing for you and your partner by offering more emotional support to heal from past hurts.
"Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls your life."
~ Akshay Dubey ~
My Approach
I bring a range of therapeutic approaches that aims to teach couples to express their feelings more authentically, listen with curiosity, calm dysregulation, resolve conflict, deepen appreciation and enhance connection.
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I provide a safe, accepting and non-judgemental space where you will both be listened to, valued and supported to express your needs and longings and to effectively engage in relational repair. My methods include bond building tools that build bridges to a thriving relationship again.
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​My practice is rooted in non-violent communication principles, anti-oppressive therapy and is welcoming of all forms of gender, cultural and relationship diversity.
I am fully trained in the Bader-Pearson Developmental Model of Couples Therapy (The Couples Institute), have attended workshops in Imago Couples Therapy (including dialogue training) and engaged in self-study of the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
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I have worked with couples and relationships for 17 years and have expertise in facilitating emotionally focused Couples Dialogue (I-to-I).
I am a skilled Trauma Therapist and am certified in Sensorimotor Psychotherapy. I bring a wealth of skills in resolving nervous system dysregulation and attachment issues often at the root of many conflict dependent relationship patterns.
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Ready to begin?
Are you ready to get support to build a stronger relational life? The next step is to book an Initial Relationship Counselling Session and we can explore how I can help you.
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All my sessions are online using Doxy Videoconferencing. Online Relationship therapy has taken off in the last few years and is proven to be an excellent way to get support in the comfort of your own space.
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Any questions? I offer a free 20min online meet and greet to go through any questions you might have about working with me.
"I saw that you were perfect, and so I loved you. Then I saw that you were not perfect and I loved you even more"
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~ Angelita Lim ~